Wow...Valentines day is already here and I thought a fun topic to talk about would be about romance! It's the time of year when we show appreciation to that someone special in our lives...but wouldn't it be a lot more fun to experience these feelings more often?

Do you remember when you first met and the few months afterwards, do you recall the feelings that rush through your body?

And, have you noticed that you only focus on the things you like about them...the things you find attractive about them instead of their flaws? All of us have flaws but when we first meet that special someone, we don't pay them much attention. After dating a while, however, we do start to notice them and bit by bit, the negative feelings builds up within us and it can begin to really put a damper on a relationship, regardless of how good it is.

So what I learned with the various release techniques available, if we release all of the negative feelings that are tied to the things that irritate us about the person, not only will our relationships improve, but we will feel better and healthier as well.

Why? Because suppressed negative feelings are actually toxic...there is a ton of evidence that supports this. Also, when we have these negative feelings about the person, it doesn't exactly make us want to spend more "quality" time with them.

Resentment is one of the biggest romance killers in relationships. To quote author Florence Scovel Shin "Resentment has ruined more homes than drink" She is probably not too far off with that statement.

So a great exercise if your love life isn't sizzling is to examine your feelings about the person and to think of the things that bother you. If there is negativity there, you will feel it in your body where the feelings are actually stored...and you can easily let them go with several release techniques available.

When you do that, you will feel lighter and happier and I am willing to bet, your partner will react in a more positive, and dare I say, loving way. Changing the other person just doesn't work. I am sure we have all experienced that. But when we change ourselves from the inside, our whole world changes.

So, when we release these negative feelings about our partner (or anyone in our life for that matter), those negative things that bothered us just a moment before will no longer color our relationship with them. In my experience with cutting edge release self improvement programs is that resentment and other similar feelings are just that...they are feelings and they can be released quickly and easily.

Now This Is Key: As you let go of those negative feelings about your partner (and even yourself), you will experience more positive feelings naturally...similar to the feelings you experienced when you first met. These feelings will now rise to the surface rather than be buried under the mountain of dust that is our negative feelings and programs.

Positive thinking alone just will not work...I am sure we have all experienced trying to think positive on top of negative feelings. It is basically putting fresh apples on top of rotten ones.

Trying to think positive thoughts about your partner or spouse when there is resentment will not get rid of the resentment. It only suppresses it...and whatever is suppressed has to come to the surface and the longer the resentment or whatever negative feelings you are experiencing are suppressed, the more explosive they will be when the come to the surface.

This is because we are talking about actual physical energy...and when it is expressed, we often do or say things we later regret.

So if I could some up in one sentence the key to making your relationships magical, it is to release all negative feelings and programs that you about your parter and relationships in general...and this includes any of the times you have been hurt in the past as those feelings can subconsciously sabotage your current relationship.

Thank you for taking time to read this article. I really enjoyed writing it.